Lately I have had several conversations about change. Some with people who are resistant to upcoming changes and others with those who are trying to embrace new changes that are coming into their life. As a wellness coach, I try to support people as they make changes in their life. Whether you are trying to increase your activity level, lose weight, quit smoking, or get some stress out of your life, you will be making changes.
Whatever your motive for seeking change, one thing is certain. To go from where you are now to where you want to be will mean making some changes in your life. Embrace the idea of change.
Why is it so hard to change? For most of us, it is habit. We have a lot of practice doing what we currently do. To stop doing a habit is hard, and to replace it with a new habit can seem daunting. We are also great at making excuses for why we cannot make this new change.
Do you need a starting point? Start with the voices that influence your thinking.
Remove the negative voices:
- These can be from people or places that remind you of your past failures.
- Take a good hard listen to the little voice in your head; is it speaking in negative tones? This is where the first change needs to take place. Replace that inner negative with positive comments.
Practice being positive:
- Start each day by saying, “Today is going to be a great day!”
- Smile at yourself in the mirror.
- Don’t let any self-critical comments stay in your head. Counteract them with a positive comment.
- Surround yourself with positive individuals.
When you hit a bump in the road to your new habit, do not despair and let your inner voice or the voice of others around you bring you down or beat you up for having tried. Failing is a part of trying something new. Remind yourself that “everyone is a beginner at the beginning.” When you try new things, you may fail. This does not make you a failure. There is a difference between the two.
“Understand the difference between “failing,” which each of us does often, and “being a failure,” which is a state of mind no one should ever allow themselves to fall into”. – Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Your life does not get better by chance. It gets better by change. Start small and make a change. You can do it!
What changes have you made recently? How have they positively impacted you? Share in the comments below!