Getting engaged is a wonderful and exciting experience. I got engaged over the Thanksgiving holiday last November and my fiancé and I immediately began planning our wedding.
The only thing I knew about my future wedding was that it would be a destination wedding in Hawaii. Right away, I began to realize the cost of things like food, beverages, hotel rooms, and the flights! It became increasingly overwhelming.
Don’t let this happen to you!
It’s important to cope with stress appropriately and find the approach that works best for you. I found a few useful tips that have helped me cope and maybe they will help you, too.
- Remember the wedding is for you and your future spouse, not everyone else.
- Delegate and share the responsibilities.
- Enlist the help of your family and bridal party. Most people offer to help, so take advantage of it.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff, as no one notices the tiny details anyway.
- You don’t have to plan everything today; take time to figure out what’s most important and plan a timeline of events.
- Create a budget. Sit down and talk with your fiancé and family to see what’s realistic for you. My fiancé and I spoke about how much we could handle and how much we could save each month.
- Expect there to be some hidden costs and plan to save a little extra to cover them.
- Create a spreadsheet or document with all the details of your wedding (venue selection, caterers, DJs, etc.) and include links to their websites.
- Use a guide to help navigate the process and create a personalized guide. I began an online guide on TheKnot.com.
- Get a wedding coordinator; it was the biggest thing that helped reduce my stress.
- Get plenty of rest; you don’t want to be a bridezilla because you didn’t get enough sleep.
- Continue to eat healthfully; it will help you keep up your energy level when trying to coordinate many things at once.
- Do some types of exercise that will help take the edge off and get rid of some anxious energy. I find high-intensity exercises and yoga are very helpful for me.
- Voice your concerns to whoever will listen. It might help you feel better to verbalize those feelings rather than keeping them bottled up inside.
- Most importantly, enjoy the whole process because you may only get to do this once!
If you’re planning a wedding, what do you do to manage your stress? If you’re already married, what types of stress relief worked for you when you were planning your wedding? Any helpful suggestions you might have could help me and anyone reading this post.